Deep Talks: 72 questions

Conversations that stay with you for a long time: about childhood, dreams, fears, values and the two of you.

How to playOne of you asks, the other answers, then switch. No rush: one good question can fill a whole evening.

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What's your earliest memory, and why do you think that one stuck?

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Where you come from

What's your earliest memory, and why do you think that one stuck?
What did you dream of becoming as a kid? What's left of that dream in you today?
What's something a parent used to say that you still hear in your head, even if you no longer agree with it?
How was love shown in the home you grew up in? And anger?
What about your childhood do you only appreciate now?
What promise did you make yourself as a kid that you're still trying to keep?
Who outside your family shaped you most as a kid? What did they teach you?
Which childhood wound still shows up in your relationships sometimes?
Describe the place you used to go when you wanted to hide from the world.
Which younger version of yourself would you most like to hug today? What do you tell them?
What topics were off-limits in your family growing up? How did that affect you?
What smell, taste or song takes you straight back to childhood?

Where you're headed

What do you want more time for, even if it means less money?
Which dream are you saving for “someday”? What would it take for “someday” to be now?
What do you dream of that could never be shown in a photo?
What would you like to be thanked for someday?
Whose job or passion do you secretly envy?
Which dream of yours has already come true, and was it worth the wait?
What risk do you want to take someday, even though just thinking about it makes your heart race?
Describe your dream life in one sentence.
What do you want to try before your next milestone birthday?
Which of your dreams has changed the most in recent years, and why?
What dream are you carrying that we haven't talked about yet?
What do you want to do this year just for yourself?

The hard stuff

What scares you more: life slipping through your fingers, or getting it wrong?
When you feel someone drifting away from you, what do you do: run, fight or freeze?
What don't people know about you, and why would you rather keep it that way?
What part of yourself do you hide because you're afraid it would be too much?
What do people mistake for strength in you that's really just armor?
When did you last feel ashamed, and what helped you carry it?
What hurts you more: harsh words or a long silence?
What failure can you still not forgive yourself for?
What do you dislike about yourself that, oddly enough, protects you in relationships?
What kind of criticism do you fear most, and from whom?
When everything falls apart, what helps most: people, time alone, moving your body or a plan?
What fear would you like to leave with me for safekeeping today?

What really matters

What three values would you never trade for any amount of money?
What do you do for the people close to you even when you really don't feel like it?
Who do you admire, and what exactly do you admire them for?
What boundary is easier for you to set now than it used to be?
When, if ever, is it okay to lie?
What matters more to you: being right or having peace of mind?
What rule is all your own, one nobody could ever talk you out of?
What does success mean to you, leaving money and job titles aside?
What can you forgive, and what will you never forgive?
How have your views changed over the last five years?
How do you make big decisions: a pros and cons list, talking it through, or a gut feeling?
What does no school teach that everyone should know?

About us, honestly

How do you know someone is your person?
What do you need more of to feel close: words, gestures or just being together without talking?
What in our relationship lets you breathe easier, and what makes you hold your breath?
What's harder for you: asking for help or accepting it?
How can you tell it's love and not just habit?
What part of your everyday life deserves more of my attention?
What about you doesn't need fixing, even with the best intentions?
What story about us do you want to be telling twenty years from now?
What do you need to hear after a fight to truly let it go, not just say “it's fine”?
What's sacred to you in a relationship and not up for negotiation, not even as a joke?
When do you feel I understand you without you having to explain?
If this conversation could change one thing between us, what would it be?

The big questions

When do you feel most like yourself, and what's different in those moments?
If your life were a podcast, what would this episode be called?
What decision from the last few years changed who you are the most?
What gets you out of bed on an ordinary Tuesday?
Do you believe in fate, chance or something in between?
What do you want to say to the people you love before it's too late?
What did the hardest relationship of your life teach you?
Twenty years from now, what will you think about the things you worry about today?
What do you do differently on a day when you have nothing to prove to anyone?
Which memory comes back when life is good, and which one when it's hard?
What do you think happens to us after we die?
When did you last think: “moments like this are what life is for”?

How do I use these questions?

One of you asks, the other answers, then switch. No rush: one good question can fill a whole evening.

How many questions are in Deep Talks?

Deep Talks has 72 questions in 6 chapters. All of them are free here, and in the Liskove app you play them together, even from far apart.

In Liskove you take turns asking them, each of you answers on your own phone, and every conversation earns points for the fox you share.

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